1) I think your blog is wonderful and unique due to the fact that you’ve documented your pregnancy and your journey as a first time mom on your blog. Would you mind divulging more about yourself (i.e. where are you from, educational background, etc.) and why you decided to do the blog?
Thank you! I was raised in the Atlanta area, and moved to Arizona my last year of high school. I graduated a year early and went to BYU for collage. I studied broadcast journalism.
I decided to blog when I was looking for another creative outlet to express myself. I loved journaling but it’s fun writing a journal and getting feedback from others. I was surprised by the response from my blog before I was even pregnant, and have just kept it up.
2) You’re in an interracial marriage with a beautiful, healthy baby girl. Were marriage and children always in your vision? How did you and your husband meet?
Marriage and children were definitely in my plans but not as soon as it happened. I met my husband when I was 18 and we were married just before my 19th birthday on a blind date at BYU. We waited five years to start having children, but we are still fairly young.
3) You’re a mom, wife, blogger, and employed. How do you manage to keep it all together and devote time to each of those facets of your life? Do you ever feel as though you’re not giving enough to yourself?
It’s definitely hard to keep it all together. There are days when I am freaking out and kicking myself for putting so much on my plate, but then there are days when I’m bored and looking for other opportunities to add to the situation. The bored days rarely happen now that I have my daughter, but I’m getting better at balancing more things. I definitely don’t take as much time to myself as I probably should, and because I work, when I do take time to myself I feel guilty. I sometimes feel like I have to be with her every moment I’m not at work, and while I love that, mommy needs a break sometimes too.
4) You’re a native and resident of Texas, and I’m a native and resident of Georgia. Although Texas is different than Georgia in certain ways, it’s still part of the south, and we both know the south still has its issues with race. How has being raised and living in the south formed your perception of race and interracial unions? Has your interracial marriage caused friction between you and your friends and/or family?
I’m from Georgia as well and I totally get it! It’s sad to think back to some of the things I heard and witnessed while growing up there. I had many white friends but not many who believed interracial dating was ok. Luckily, our families didn’t believe it was wrong and they supported my husband and my relationship. Our friends were also very supportive.
5) I think your daughter is adorable, and one of my favorite posts was the one titled “I Won’t Make Her Chose.” For me, it hit home because often we’re (and I’m including myself in this) quick to label a multi-racial person as being of one race, and it’s mostly due to going with the flow of society. Do you still often worry about how society will feel and/or treat your child(ren) in the future?
Thank you! Although I won’t make my daughter choose to identify herself as one race or the other, truth is, she may do that herself. And society may do that for her. But it doesn’t make it right. I want her to know who she truly is, and understand that wholeheartedly. Society tells me because I’m black I should act and talk a certain way, and people are shocked when I don’t fit into this stereotypical mold, but I don’t let that make me question who I am. I hope that the same will ring true for my children.
6) The idea of your 365 Love Letters to your daughter is beautiful. I enjoy looking at the pictures and reading the messages (and I also sometimes apply them to myself, LOL). If you had to pick one love letter that you enjoy the most or that you feel would have the most impact on your daughter’s life, which one would it be and why?
My favorite off the top of my head is Day 99. It says how goals change but that’s ok. I have to remind myself of that sometimes as my career goals change while I delve more into becoming a good mother. It doesn’t make me a failure, it makes me brave.
7) I come from a family of multiple siblings, and I would love to one day have more than one child. Do you and your husband plan on having more children. If so, is there anything you think you would do differently with your future children as far as parenting is concerned?
Oh we definitely want to have more. How many more, we’re not sure yet. I think it’ll be so different when we have another because I won’t have all of these questions about how life with change once you become a parent. I know how love this strong feels, I know how to raise a baby. I don’t think I’ll be as stressed out about little things next time around—Things like the birth, getting the nursery perfect, what type of baby products to use. Time goes by so fast I just want to enjoy every moment!